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sleidi:

Hey, guys! I cofounded Mesh, and it’s the first mainstream dating site to include queer, transgender, and non-binary as identification options. I think it’s pretty important that the community finds out about this, especially since other sites have ignored the demand for these options. We’re in pre-beta mode right now, but you can register using this link: https://www.meshbetter.com/pride Take a look around and let me know what you think! We’re always looking out for suggestions.

!! Still in pre-beta mode and just for NY so far, but still!

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Anonymous asked: Ugh but like, Bucky & Sam have such a great dynamic. Like just imagine all the sass and neither of them taking bullshit from the other. It'd just be a whole lot of like, sarcastic jokes, bitchy remarks, unnecessary complaining & goofing around. But also, Sam's the understanding type. Whenever Bucky's going through winter soldier shit, Sam'd be right there to talk & just listen. And come on, they're totally obviously in love with all the heated glances, lingering touches, blatant heart eyes...

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imaginebucky:

but you’re forgetting the blatant gross over-the-top flirting

we all know bucky’s a flirtatious guy, always had a date on saturday night back in the 40s and all, but so is sam! he fearlessly chatted up captain america and the black widow both in the span of about five minutes like the freakin hero that he is (you go sam, live the dream~)

and bucky’s no exception; bucky’s the overtly flirtatious type, so once he winks at sam over a cup of coffee, gaze lingering just a bit too long, it’s on.

they spend a week making eyes at each other; bucky brings coffee to the va during sam’s break, sam gets him flowers, honest to god a bouquet of flowers, and the whole thing is punctuated by sexually charged banter and ridiculous pick up lines.

and then bucky knocks on sam’s door, a little too late for it to be polite, and when sam opens the door it’s to a bucky that looks nervous. he’s fidgeting, shifting his weight from foot to foot, metal fingers whirring.

and without preamble he looks at sam and says, “so, this flirting thing, it’s fun, but do you -” he trails off, gesturing vaguely, dropping his gaze. and there’s something so raw and fragile about it.

"may i?" sam asks, and bucky nods, still not meeting his eyes, so sam steps into bucky’s personal space and tips his chin up and kisses him, very gently, on the mouth.

“does that answer your question?” he asks, stepping back just a bit.

“yeah, i think it does,” says bucky.

I agree this is how it goes, but this is how it goes after Bucky’s been back for over a year.

During that first year, it’s Sam who drives Bucky to therapy appointments, takes him to the PTSD groups at the VA, and stays with him after each because Bucky’s usually dissociated or freaked out and Sam knows how to calm him back down. Sam spends a lot of time helping Bucky learn to self-regulate, to breathe and ground and center. To bring his brain out of the past and future and back to the present moment and to stay there. 

(It’s Sam, not Steve, that Bucky’s therapist encourages him to spend more time with—Steve triggers Bucky so badly some days that when Steve walks into a room Bucky goes nearly catatonic or wants to start screaming)

During that first year, it’s Sam and Natasha Bucky talks to about what happened to him as the Soldier, the asset, the object, because Steve cries and breaks walls and has panic attacks of his own when he hears about it. It’s Sam first who’s allowed to reteach Bucky all the myriad forms of adult self-care that Hydra electrocuted out of him—shaving and picking clothes and when to use deoderant and all of it. It’s Sam who congratulates Bucky on relearning how to do these things and then taking initiative and putting personal choices into the task of grooming. (Sam gets his needs met by his family and Steve—for Sam, Steve can be steady and a good listener and provide a solid ground so that Sam can go be that for Bucky.)

It’s Sam who is most able to put the time and energy and effort into Bucky, so it’s Sam who first gets all the rewards. It’s Sam with whom Bucky feels safe enough to BE Bucky again, to flirt outrageously and interact in such a way. For months Steve remained uncertain that Bucky really survived the fall. But Sam was certain, because he saw it in Bucky in a hundred small ways long before Steve did. 

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Tips for Making Small Talk

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1. Go prepared when you’re meeting new people, or when you have to attend a social event. Think about some topics you can talk about with others (and that…

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xekstrin:


A new religious statue in the town of Davidson, N.C., is unlike anything you might see in church.
The statue depicts Jesus as a vagrant sleeping on a park bench. St. Alban’s Episcopal Church installed the homeless Jesus statue on its property in the middle of an upscale neighborhood filled with well-kept townhomes.
Jesus is huddled under a blanket with his face and hands obscured; only the crucifixion wounds on his uncovered feet give him away.
The reaction was immediate. Some loved it; some didn’t.
"One woman from the neighborhood actually called police the first time she drove by," says David Boraks, editor of DavidsonNews.net. "She thought it was an actual homeless person."
That’s right. Somebody called the cops on Jesus.

And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Since you have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, you have done it unto me.

Oh god that’s beautiful.

congenitalprogramming:

xekstrin:

A new religious statue in the town of Davidson, N.C., is unlike anything you might see in church.

The statue depicts Jesus as a vagrant sleeping on a park bench. St. Alban’s Episcopal Church installed the homeless Jesus statue on its property in the middle of an upscale neighborhood filled with well-kept townhomes.

Jesus is huddled under a blanket with his face and hands obscured; only the crucifixion wounds on his uncovered feet give him away.

The reaction was immediate. Some loved it; some didn’t.

"One woman from the neighborhood actually called police the first time she drove by," says David Boraks, editor of DavidsonNews.net. "She thought it was an actual homeless person."

That’s right. Somebody called the cops on Jesus.

And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Since you have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, you have done it unto me.

Oh god that’s beautiful.

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